NON-CONSENSUAL AMOROUS RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED

By Vicki L. Buba JD

By Dr. David Edward Marcinko MBA CMP™

http://www.CertifiedMedicalPlanner.org

An “Amorous Relationship” is defined as a consensual romantic, sexual or dating relationship. This definition excludes marital unions. The term also encompasses those relationships in which amorous or romantic feelings exist without physical intimacy and which, when acted upon by the faculty or staff member, exceed the reasonable boundaries of what a person of ordinary sensibilities would believe to be a collegial or professional relationship. The faculty/student and supervisor/employee relationship should not be jeopardized by question of favoritism or fairness in professional judgment.

Furthermore, whether the consent by a student or employee in such relationship is indeed voluntary is suspect due to the imbalance of power and authority between the parties. All members of the healthcare entity should be aware that initial consent to a romantic relationship does not preclude the potential for charges of conflict of interest, or for charges of sexual harassment arising from the conflict of interest, particularly when students and employees not involved in the relationship claim they have been disadvantaged by the relationship. A faculty, staff member or graduate assistant who enters into an “Amorous Relationship” with a student under his or her supervision, or a supervisor who enters into an “Amorous Relationship” with an employee under his or her supervision, must realize that if a charge of sexual harassment is subsequently lodged, it will be exceedingly difficult to prove blamelessness on grounds of mutual consent. This policy is superseded by the laws governing inability to consent based on age.

HANDLING ROMANTIC PATIENT ADVANCES

While physicians vary in their approaches to managing flirtatious patients, many agree that nipping the behavior in the bud is critical to maintaining professionalism and upholding ethical standards. “It’s flattering to have a flirtatious patient,” said Dr. William P. Scherer MS, Professor of Radiology at the Barry University School of Medicine, Boca Raton, Florida. “But, we have an obligation to protect the integrity of our medical profession, and to our marital contracts and spousal relationships and family, and to act professionally at all times” [personal communication].

Dr. Scherer finds it helpful to put some professional distance between himself and a flirtatious patient. “I have no problem saying to a patient: I appreciate what interests you may have, but I have to draw the line to take proper professional care of you, instead.”

And a good way to derails flirtatious behavior from patients is by deflecting their unwelcome comments. “And, you can’t act sheepish about it.” When a patient’s remark crosses the line from complimentary to something uncomfortable, the doctor may either curtly laugh it off or ignore it. “I don’t acknowledge the statement and immediately move the conversation into something clinical in order to put the rest of the visit in a serious tone.”

On the other hand, Dr. Barbara S. Schlefman MS, a fitness trainer and retired podiatrist, instructed her nurses to have another staffer accompany them into an examination room when a patient is known for being flirtatious was waiting to be seen; and to leave the door open [personal communication].

Likewise, other physicians use a “more is merrier” approach for themselves and their staff as a defense against flirtatious behavior. This is a problem that can be avoided by having physicians never see patients alone. So, as Dr. Schlefman advised, be sure to always a nurse or medical assistant in the room with the physician, even if you have to see somebody in the office on call after hours. And, be sure to have a call schedule for the nursing and medical assistant staff that includes patients of both genders, regardless of physician gender, since flirtatious behavior can be same-sex flirtatious behavior. Fortunately, adjunct or visiting clinical professors, or doctors on a medical school clinical teaching staff, rarely have patient encounters without a medical student, intern, resident fellow or nurse in the room during examinations.

Recognize the Signs

While it’s important that physicians don’t act on a flirtatious patient’s advances, it’s equally critical to recognize subtle flirtatious signs from a patient; according to Donna Petrozzello MD, an otolaryngologist at the California Sinus Centers.

A patient that maintains unusually long eye contact with their doctor, or engages in talk not related to their visit, or makes a habit of touching the physicians when not medically necessary may be flirting. Additionally, doctors can protect themselves when performing some common procedures that put the physician in close proximity to a patient’s face, breasts, genitals, legs and even feet. That closeness could turn a clinical exam into a flirtatious event. Wearing a mask to perform each of these local or regional examinations is not only for the purposes of infection control but gives the added benefit of establishing some personal space and protection, to avoid any potential misunderstanding. For example, auscultating lungs through a shirt, not underneath, is a good idea with this type of exam on a young woman patient.

[Two icons of romantic relationships]

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