Financial Self-Discovery for Medical Professionals

By Dr. David Edward Marcinko; MBA MEd CMP

PHYSICIAN COACHING: https://marcinkoassociates.com/process-what-we-do/

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A Financial Self Discovery Questionnaire for Medical Professionals

For understanding your relationship with money, it is important to be aware of yourself in the contexts of culture, family, value systems and experience.  These questions will help you.  This is a process of self-discovery.  To fully benefit from this exploration, please address them in writing.  You will simply not get the full value from it if you just breeze through and give mental answers.  While it is recommended that you first answer these questions by yourself, many people relate that they have enjoyed the experience of sharing them with others who are important to them. 

As you answer these questions, be conscious of your feelings, actually describing them in writing as part of your process. 

Childhood

  • What is your first memory of money?
  • What is your happiest moment with Money? Your most unhappy?
  • Name the miscellaneous money messages you received as a child.
  • How were you confronted with the knowledge of differing economic circumstances among people, that there were people “richer” than you and people “poorer” than you?

Cultural heritage

  • What is your cultural heritage and how has it interfaced with money?
  • To the best of your knowledge, how has it been impacted by the money forces?  Be specific.  
  • To the best of your knowledge, does this circumstance have any motive related to Money?
  • Speculate about the manners in which your forebears’ money decisions continue to affect you today? 

Family

  • How is/was the subject of money addressed by your church or the religious traditions of your forebears?
  • What happened to your parents or grandparents during the Depression?
  • How did your family communicate about money?
  • How?  Be as specific as you can be, but remember that we are more concerned about impacts upon you than historical veracity.
  • When did your family migrate to America (or its current location)?
  • What else do you know about your family’s economic circumstances historically?

Your parents

  • How did your mother and father address money?
  • How did they differ in their money attitudes?
  • How did they address money in their relationship?
  • Did they argue or maintain strict silence?
  • How do you feel about that today?

Please do your best to answer the same questions regarding your life or business partner(s) and their parents.

Childhood: Revisited

  • How did you relate to money as a child?  Did you feel “poor” or “rich”? 
    Relatively?  Or, absolutely?  Why?
  • Were you anxious about money?
    Did you receive an allowance?  If so, describe amounts and responsibilities.
  • Did you have household responsibilities?
  • Did you get paid regardless of performance?
  • Did you work for money?

If not, please describe your thoughts and feelings about that.

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Same questions, as a teenager, young adult, older adult.

Credit

  • When did you first acquire something on credit?
  • When did you first acquire a credit card?
  • What did it represent to you when you first held it in your hands?
  • Describe your feelings about credit.
  • Do you have trouble living within your means?
  • Do you have debt?

Adulthood

  • Have your attitudes shifted during your adult life?  Describe.

Why did you choose your personal path? 
a)      Would you do it again?
b)      Describe your feelings about credit.

Adult attitudes

  • Are you money motivated? 
    If so, please explain why?  If not, why not? 
    How do you feel about your present financial situation? 
    Are you financially fearful or resentful?  How do you feel about that?
  • Will you inherit money?  How does that make you feel?
  • If you are well off today, how do you feel about the money situations of others? 
    If you feel poor, same question. 
  • How do you feel about begging?  Welfare?
    If you are well off today, why are you working?
  • Do you worry about your financial future?
  • Are you generous or stingy?  Do you treat?  Do you tip?
  • Do you give more than you receive or the reverse?  Would others agree?
  • Could you ask a close relative for a business loan?  For rent/grocery money?
  • Could you subsidize a non-related friend?  How would you feel if that friend bought something you deemed frivolous? 
  • Do you judge others by how you perceive they deal with their Money?
    Do you feel guilty about your prosperity?
    Are your siblings prosperous?
  • What part does money play in your spiritual life?
  • Do you “live” your Money values?

Conclusion

There may be other questions that would be useful to you.  Others may occur to you as you progress in your life’s journey. The point is to know your personal money issues and their ramifications for your life, work, and personal mission. 

This will be a “work-in-process” with answers both complex and incomplete.  Don’t worry. 

Just incorporate fine-tuning into your life’s process.

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DYING BROKE: Frugality OR Freedom

By Rick Kahler CFP™

http://www.KahlerFinancial.com

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Dying Broke. It’s a goal for those retirees who embrace the idea of spending their hard-earned wealth during their lifetimes. Their aim is to enjoy the fruits of their labor while they can and spend the last penny just as they take their last breath. The concept feels both pragmatic and poetic.

But here’s the twist: While the concept may conjure images of lavish spending sprees and exotic vacations, that’s rarely what I see in practice. Many of my clients who identify as Die Brokers aren’t recklessly burning through their wealth. In fact, the opposite is often true.

This is because their approach to spending and giving is shaped by a lifetime of frugal money scripts that are incredibly hard to shake. Many Boomers grew up with financial uncertainty, learning to save and sacrifice to protect themselves and their families. Even after decades of financial success, those habits don’t just disappear. The idea of “spending down” their wealth, even intentionally, feels unnatural and irresponsible. There is an internal tug-of-war between their stated desire to enjoy their wealth and their deeply rooted fear of running out.

This paradox can significantly affect retirees’ financial planning. While Die Brokers may express a strong commitment to living fully, their money behavior often reveals a need for reassurance that their money will last for their lifetime.

For many Boomers, including myself, those frugal money scripts have served us well for decades. They’ve provided financial stability and peace of mind. But in this stage of life, they can also hold us back from experiencing the freedom we’ve worked so hard to achieve—especially in the time we have left when we can still physically enjoy it. The challenge is finding balance, honoring the values that got us here while allowing ourselves permission to live fully.

Shifting from a scarcity mindset to one of abundance is no small feat.

Here are four ways to start turning those old money scripts into permission to spend and give intentionally:

  1. Reframe wealth as a tool rather than a safety net. Recognize that money is about opportunity as well as security. Spending with intention can bring joy and meaning, whether it’s funding a family trip, supporting a cause, or splurging on a bucket list item.
  2. Work with your financial advisor to analyze your retirement spending and the probability of running out of money. The amount they suggest you can spend may surprise you—it’s often far higher than your frugal money scripts would lead you to believe.
  3. Experiment with incremental giving. If parting with your wealth feels daunting, start small. Gift modest amounts to family, friends, or charities and notice how it feels. Seeing the immediate impact of your generosity can help ease the transition and loosen the grip of those old money scripts.
  4. Set intentional spending goals instead of vaguely aiming to “enjoy your wealth.” Identify specific ways you want to use your money to enhance your life or the lives of others. Having a clear plan can turn spending into a meaningful act rather than an exercise in guilt.

For many of us, the Die Broke mentality is not about recklessness or extravagance. It’s about learning to let go. Despite our bold talk of spending down to the last penny, most of us will likely leave behind more than we planned. And maybe that’s just fine—especially for our kids and grand kids. Perhaps being a Die Broker is really about giving ourselves permission to live with intention, to savor what we’ve built, and to enjoy living to the fullest the rich life our frugality has helped provide.

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