PHYSICIAN DIVORCE: “Buyer’s Settlement Remorse”

By A.I and Dr. David Edward Marcinko MBA MEd CMP

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Introduction

It is normal for physician litigants to develop a case of “buyer’s remorse” after any mediation or divorce settlement. They may feel disappointed after entering into a settlement agreement or feel that they received a bad deal.

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Mediation: Some advantages of divorce mediation over divorce litigation include:

◊ Mediation is generally faster and less costly.

◊ Mediation is voluntary, private and confidential.

◊ Mediation facilitates creative and realistic solutions.

◊ Mediation allows parties to control their agreements.

◊ Mediation eliminates a win-lose atmosphere and result.

◊ Mediation provides a forum for addressing future disputes.

◊ Mediation fosters communication and helps mend relationships.

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Settlement

And so, in a vast majority of cases, mediation and settlement is probably a good deal. In fact, it is probably a great deal because you are receiving something without having to risk losing. Remember, trial can be a crap-shoot, and nothing is worse than losing it all at the time of trial.

  • Bench trial verdict by a trial judge.
  • Jury trial verdict by your “peers.”

Instead, you entered into a settlement agreement and now your divorce case is over.

But beware since trying to get out of a settlement agreement reached at mediation or settlement is virtually impossible.

Why? Well, there is a strong interest by the court to enforce mediation and settlement agreements. The court wants your divorce case to be over and off its docket. There are a few very narrow exceptions; for example, if one party was truly coerced because someone held a gun to their head. But that rarely happens, and it certainly doesn’t happen to most doctors or dentists.

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Re-litigate?

Of course, you can fight against your mediation or settlement agreement if you like, but you won’t get too far. There’s an old adage in the law that a bad settlement is better than a great trial. That’s because no one knows how a judge or jury will rule come time of trial.

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This buyers remorse phenomenon also isn’t uncommon among people who receive sudden wealth, whether through divorce settlements, inheritances, lottery winnings, or other windfalls.

Assessment

Financial advisors often see clients struggle with “sudden wealth syndrome”—the inability to properly manage a large sum of money they’re not accustomed to having.

Common mistakes include:

  • Lifestyle inflation without sustainable income to support it.
  • Poor investment decisions or lack of investment planning.
  • Emotional spending following traumatic life events like divorce.
  • Failure to set aside money for taxes on the settlement.
  • Not creating a long-term financial plan for the money.

So, do not let these mistakes happen to you!

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PHYSICIAN GENDER FINANCIAL DIFFERENCES: In Marriage and Divorce

By Dr. David Edward Marcinko MBA MEd

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Whatever the statistics regarding physician standard of living, the reality is that within most marriages the husband more frequently takes responsibility for understanding and managing the finances.  Additionally, women are more likely to remain in the marital home following a separation, thus inheriting a large fixed expense that may prove be an excessive, albeit short-term burden to them.  At the time the decision is made to separate or divorce, many women do not have an understanding of how to manage their household budget, or how to manage their assets and liabilities. 

But, this is changing over time.

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An issue many divorcing physicians face is that the other spouse (in the past the wife), may have concentrated their energies on managing the home, while the physician concentrated on earning and managing the finances.  The problems of the spouse of a physician are often compounded in divorce; not only do they not understand their personal finances, but that their absence from the work force has made them financially dependent on the other. 

At what probably be the most emotionally taxing time in their lives, they are forced to play catch-up.

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Taking a more active role in their own financial planning during the marriage may help the spouse of a physician avoid some of the financial pitfalls of separation and divorce. 

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NOTE: Barbara Stanny provides an excellent overview and reading bibliography on how people can get smart about money in her book Prince Charming Isn’t Coming. [1]


[1] Penguin USA (paper), 1999.

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On Bill Gates, Doctors and Divorce – Oh My!

OF COMMON CAUSE WITH TOO MANY PHYSICIANS?

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Dr. David Edward Marcinko MBA CMP®

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Bill Gates has been a business hero for me for the past 35 years. I even met him, once briefly back in the day. So, the marital union of the Microsoft Founder and Melinda French seemed perfect, and their marriage stood the test of time as it neared the three-decade mark, a rare feat in the world of A-list couples.

Sadly, when they announced their split on Twitter this week, many were shocked, even heartbroken. People reflected on their own marriages and wondered how they could make it work if the Gates’ could not.

And collectively, we found we cared about the split — a lot. 

But, what about physician colleagues and divorce?

Do we doctors have some common cause with Bill and Melinda?

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Financial Infidelity – Are Doctors Different?

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Married people are happier by many measures, yet many marriages are unhappy or fail because couples bring to the partnership significant debt, including [medical and graduate] student loans and credit card balances, as well as self-deceptions and outright lies about money.

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Creditdonkey’s new research infographic urges couples to take a clear-eyed look at their prospects for happiness if they are not honest with themselves and their partners about money.

But, is this perspective also true for doctors and medical professionals?

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How Doctors Divvy Up the Estate Money [New Spouse v. Kids]

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Dr. David Edward Marcinko MBA CMP™

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Multiple marriages entail interesting estate planning moves. Why? In these days of multiple marriages, doctor clients and others often can get caught between wanting to provide for their children from a previous marriage and their spouse’s statutory inheritance rights. Depending on the state of residence, the surviving spouse may have a statutory right to a specific share of his or her spouse’s estate. But, states define what constitutes the “augmented estate” in different ways. Some fairly sophisticated estate planning may be appropriate.

States Right’s

Inasmuch as spousal rights of election were codified many decades ago when divorce was not a common occurrence, many states’ statutes do not fairly recognize the economics and family dynamics of married individuals who have children from a prior marriage. In some states, a spousal right of election is limited to those assets that pass through probate. In other states, the right of election is enforceable against not only probate assets but certain assets, such as jointly held property that would otherwise pass via title to the co-owner, gifts the decedent made within a certain time period prior to death, and life insurance benefits. This expanded pool of assets against which the right of election may be assessed is typically referred to as the “augmented estate.” Most states provide that the right of election is charged ratably against the beneficiaries under the decedent’s will and the beneficiaries of any testamentary substitutes.

The UPC

In many states, the same percentage would apply regardless of the length of the marriage. In 1990, the model Uniform Probate Code (UPC) was amended to provide a scaled right of election based on the length of the marriage. It ranges from a minimum of 12% up to a maximum of 50% for marriages of 15 years or more. Only a handful of states have adopted it. Even though the UPC includes pension and profit sharing plan benefits in the augmented estate, the sliding scale is subordinate to federal pension legislation which can result in an inequity in the case of a short-term marriage.

Assessment

While both pre- and post-nuptial agreements can help, life insurance is favored, particularly in the majority of states where it is excluded from the augmented estate. And, in states where life insurance is part of the augmented estate, it could be used to provide the surviving spouse with his or her share, particularly when a closely held business is passed on to children of a prior marriage. Financial planners, doctors and advisors need to be familiar with this area to effectively serve clients.

Note: “Providing for Children from a Prior Marriage: An Estate Planning Entry Point,” George B. Kozol, Journal of the American Society of CLU & ChFC, January 1997, pp. 52–57, American College.

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