Physician Couples and Money Management

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By Rick Kahler MS CFP® www.KahlerFinancial.com

Rick Kahler MS CFPMoney is just one of many challenges to becoming part of a couple; especially for physicians. Probably the most common question couples ask me concerns the best way to handle their cash management.

Specifically, they wonder if they should combine all their cash flow into one joint checking account, keep everything separate, or have some combination of both.

Stock Answers

My stock answer is “yes.” It seems that, the older I become, the fewer right answers there are and the more often I say, “It depends.” This is one of those situations where there is no one best method.

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Let’s consider the advantages and disadvantages of each approach.

  1. Combining everything in one joint account

The plus side of this scenario is that there is total financial transparency as to where the money comes from and goes to. Each party has full access to and opportunity to be fully aware of the money flow. It’s easy to track. There are no secrets.

Which brings us to the downside: there are no secrets, no autonomy. Each party can see the other’s spending and spend the other’s money. This works well in some relationships where the shared belief is, “My money is your money and your money is my money.” It doesn’t work well absent that philosophy. I find this scenario is often problematic when one or both of the parties want autonomy over how they spend their money without the watchful (often critical) eye of the other. Often this arrangement doesn’t work well in second marriages or where both parties have careers.

  1. Keeping everything completely separate

The positive of this scenario is that each party has complete autonomy and control over his or her money. This often works well for two-career couples or second marriages where both partners came into the union with significant pensions or assets. It may also be a good fit for unmarried couples. If one partner is a spendthrift, it can protect the other partner from unauthorized purchases.

The negatives are that it can be more difficult to manage joint expenses like housing costs and that neither party has any specifics into the spending of the other. If a partner has any type of addiction, separate accounts can serve to enable the addiction by hiding the extent of the problem from the other partner.

  1. Combination of joint and separate accounts

The advantage to this scenario is that it provides more autonomy than putting everything into a joint account, yet it offers an easier way to manage joint expenses. It can often result in a clear agreement on what is mine, yours, and ours. Some couples have a system where each one’s earnings are their own, and they each contribute put fixed amounts into joint account. Another method is to deposit all the income into the joint account and give each partner a periodic allowance.

The disadvantages to this are the need to manage three accounts and to decide who writes the checks from the joint account.

Spouses

Case Example:

Personally, my wife and I use the third option. As the major breadwinner, I deposit most of my income into the joint account, from which she pays all the family bills. A smaller amount of my income goes into my separate account that I use to pay for private schooling, funding 529 plans, and personal care like massages and haircuts.

Assessment

Problems often arise when partners assume the money should be managed (or is being managed) in a certain way. No matter which approach couples use, the most important factor is to discuss it and agree, as equal partners, to a system that works for them.

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How Medical and Financial Professionals can Teach their Children Fiscal Discipline

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Exercising Pediatric Fiscal Discipline

By Andrew D. Schwartz CPA

Andrew SchwartzI’m a CPA and my wife is a CFP (Certified Financial Planner). Many ME-P readers are the same; or are doctors or nurses; or MBAs, PhD, CFAs; or other learned professionals, etc.

Even so, I think together we’ve done a lousy job teaching our two kids – Jonathan (age 15) and Lizzie (age 14) – much about personal finances. We have also done little to help them learn anything about exercising fiscal discipline.

Over the years, we’ve toyed with monthly allowances and paying our kids for doing their household chores. The problem is that we have never been consistent with doling out the promised $20 per month or with enforcing the rules they need to follow to even be eligible to receive their allowance.

Our Allowance System

So my family’s allowance system has evolved to something like this:

Child: “Dad and/or Mom, I’m getting together with friends. Can I have some money?”

Parent: “Sure thing, Jonathan and/or Lizzie. Will $20 be sufficient?”

Well, as my kids continue to grow up, we have reached the point where this conversation happens pretty regularly. Our kids have no incentive not to ask us for money, since we have a track record of giving them money whenever they ask. And they also don’t have an incentive to try to earn any money on their own, since we have gladly been supporting 100% of their spending.

Change is Coming

That’s all about to change. Financial responsibility for the Schwartz Clan, here we come. As a parent of a teenager, you might be asking, “How will you pull this off Andrew?”

For Christmas/Chanukah last winter, we gave each child a Pass Card issued by American Express.  These cards are only available to kids 13 or older.

Enter AMEX

According to American Express, “Pass is a prepaid reloadable Card parents give to teens. It’s safer than cash, and unlike a debit or credit card, teens can only spend what’s preloaded on the Card.” For my two kids, we loaded each card with $100, and then will reload the card on the tenth of each month with their $25 allowance.

Pass cardholders can spend money on the prepaid card pretty much anywhere that takes credit cards. And while parents do have the right to deny their kids access to cash from ATMs, we decided to set up the cards to allow ATM withdrawals. We can change this setting at any time, however. The first ATM transaction each month is free for each kid, and then there is a charge of $2 per withdrawal.

The Thought Process

In theory, when either kid spends all the money on the card, they are out of money until they next receive the $25 on the tenth of the month. Here is where my wife and I will need to exercise some parental discipline and not just dole out more spending money.

Instead, we need to try to use this opportunity to remind Jonathan or Lizzie that if they want to spend more than $25 per month, they can always babysit, shovel snow or rake leaves for our neighbors, work at my office during tax season, or try to find another job that hires 14 and 15 year-old kids to earn extra money.

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Other Advantages

For parents, the Pass Card has a nifty web interface that allows parents the opportunity to view balance and purchase history online at any time, transfer additional funds into the card, or tweak the amount or frequency of the automatic reloads. Teens will also be able to logon to the Pass website under a separate login to monitor balances and activity.

According to the site, the Pass Card also provides your child some additional benefits similar to the benefits that come with the AMEX card, including:

  • Purchase Protection if an item purchased with the Pass Card breaks within 90 days
  • Roadside Assistance if your child’s car won’t start
  • Global Assist Services to provide your child with emergency services while traveling

Assessment

I hope the Pass Card works out well for my family and helps my wife and I teach my kids a little about personal finances and fiscal discipline.

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